I’m tired of some careers being ranked as “smart” and “practical” and others being ranked as “stupid decisions.” I’m tired of different types of people being cast as “marketable” and others as “worthless.” I’m tired of various work being deemed to have more value than other work. I’m tired of being told by the older generations that we’re just not working hard enough, and we expect to have it all. I never thought I would have it all. But I did think that I would have half a shot at getting a full-time job when I graduated with a B.A.
I want to talk about something that I’ve been dealing with an have no outlet to talk about.
But I’m getting really sick of anons telling me I “complain too much” or that I just need to “think positive” and bullshit.
I shouldn’t feel reluctant to post my problems, on my own blog, if I want to.
But I sadly do.
anons suck. You can feel free to message me :) I also block anons when they are super annoying.
"real life doesnt have trigger warnings" imagine supermarkets taking all of the allergy warnings off of all of the foods and then being like "sorry sweetie, welcome to the real world (:" when everyone started going into anaphylactic shock
Or movies stop having previews or ratings and 5 year olds are crying in Quentin Tarantino movies and their parents are saying “time to grow up (:”
THE DANGEROUS ANIMALS ACT - BILL 4393 - PASSED TODAY.
EVERYONE NEEDS TO CONTACT THE GOVERNOR AND VOICE YOUR OPINION!!!
Tell him why he should veto this bill! Every pet owner needs to be concerned about this!
Any snake that reaches 6 feet will be banned! Most if not all boas and pythons…
The hardest thing about losing you is that it didn’t just happen once. I lose you every single day that we don’t speak. When I wake up in the morning and reach for my phone and hope to see a message that isn’t there, and when I go to sleep at night after I realise that the only person I want to moan to about how crap my day was, isn’t there. And I lose you in all of the moments in between, in all the hours of silence that go by where I do nothing but think of you, go to call you, and then I don’t. I lose you when I watch certain films, listen to certain songs, and go to certain places that are all tainted with certain parts of you and how you make me feel. And I used to think I could only miss you when I was alone, but that’s not true. I miss you when I’m around everyone else, too. Because they are not you. But you’re always there…somewhere. I can’t not think about you. It’s only when I’m asleep that I get a break from it. From thinking and wanting and missing. But, then I wake up the following day, roll over, check my phone, see that you didn’t call and I just know I’m going to feel it all over again.
— p.o. (via c-oquetry)
When I say something that should not be controversial
Why aren’t 50% of coal miners women? Why not 50% of janitors or pest control workers? Don’t forget front line military!
Likewise, why aren’t men 50% of college enrollment and 50% of teachers?
We should eliminate the stupid “personal choice” thing because forcing people into certain professions is way more fun.
THIS IS NOT ABOUT FORCING PEOPLE INTO PROFESSIONS
THIS IS ABOUT WOMEN GOING INTO SCIENCE BEING DISCOURAGED
THIS IS ABOUT WOMEN BEING DISCRIMINATED AGAINST
FIRST, WHAT GBT SAID.^
FUNNY YOU SHOULD MENTION WOMEN COAL MINERS. BECAUSE I STUDY THEM. AND GUESS WHAT?
Women had to fight court cases to be allowed into coal mines as workers. Once a few women paved the way, thousands of women followed in short suit because on average, their incomes increased 500% over working as domestic workers, doing textile piecework and waitressing. Some saw their income jump 1000%.
Dig a little deeper, and you’ll find women have been mining coal for centuries. They were pushed out in the Victorian period because the mansplainers of the day could tolerate women wielding such a phallic object as a shovel underground with male workers present. And wearing pants! Still, women disguised themselves as men to work in the mines.
Oh, and World War II. Where did all the coal come from then? Oh, that’s right. Women. Women who were expected to stand aside and let the men take their jobs when the war was over and were denied benefits when they later developed black lung.
I feel like some people don’t realize the kind of discouragement women receive. It’s not like people stop them from majoring in science every chance they get, though that wouldn’t surprise me.
My brilliant friend was told she was trying to invade the “boys club of science” as an undergraduate by a male graduate student at a school not exactly hard to get into. She’s now studying at John Hopkins btw.
I know someone who was denied her degree by a man she had studied under because she switched labs since he was constantly commenting on her appearance and asking her out. When she tried to report him to the department head, she was told she dressed too revealingly and was just too flirty. In the end she got her degree because the other board members pressured him.
Another friend was constantly getting asked out by her boss but she couldn’t leave the lab because she needed the money.
The science itself can be sexist. In neuroscience, most experiments focus on males. The reason generally given: it’s easier. The menstrual cycle does have an influence on the brain but instead of looking into it, it’s widely ignored.
Can vouch for the science boys’ club thing…going from my undergrad (where the chemistry dept is mostly female professors, my research advisor was female, fellow researchers were all female) to grad school (male advisor, all male research group, and we shared lab space with another male-led all male group) was really intimidating and I felt really out of place. I didn’t feel like I could ask anyone for help and just felt really stupid in general.
Oh my god, I wonder why the military isn’t 50% women? Could it have anything to do with THE MASSIVE SEXUAL ASSAULT PROBLEM COUPLED WITH THE MASSIVE COVERING UP OF SEXUAL ASSAULTS PROBLEM? BUT SURE PERSONAL CHOICE BLAH BLAH BLAH WHAT IS CONTEXT.
In my opinion the most ironic of all the careers is in culinary. Culinary school is one of the few places women are being told to get out of the kitchen. This again goes back to World War 2 when the men came back from war. The culinary world and rankings (head chef, sue chef, cooks etc.) is actually based off of military chain of command. Also still to this day it is harder to get investors having a women head chef and many instructors insist it should stay a boys club.
It is important to note that in the home women are expected to cook, however in the culinary industry it is males that take the lead.
The kitchen is a highly sexualized place - almost like the military or any ‘boys club’ really. When women enter into these professions they are either resented because the men are no longer allowed to make inappropriate jokes or they are made the center of the jokes. (inappropriate jokes, drugs, and irresponsibility is what a chef does right?) However many of the best chefs of all time are known for having respectful chefs who do not do drugs, make sexist or inappropriate jokes, and are very responsible.
Also for anyone who is going to use cooking shows as an example of the real world chefs, remember those women on the cooking shows are almost always showed in full makeup and tight fitting clothing, making food for their families. Most female chefs have to give up the possibility of having children to keep their job, often don’t wear makeup or clothes that show off their femininity because it is used against them.
Also what is with the term ‘female chef’ or ‘female firefighter’ or ‘female lawyer’ when we don’t use the term ‘male chef’ or ‘male fire fighter’ or ‘male lawyer’ all the time. Why is female part of the professional title of some professions?
People say to you, ‘you’ve changed’, or something like that, well, I hope, for the sake of God that you have changed, because I don’t want to be the same person all my life. I want to be growing, I want to be expanding. I want to be changing. Because animate things change, inanimate things don’t change. Dead things don’t change. And the heart should be alive, it should be changing, it should be moving, it should be growing, its knowledge should be expanding.
— Shaykh Hamza Yusuf (via scumburg)